Are You Still A Mama’s Boy?

A clinging bond between a mom and son may become a matter of displeasure when the wife comes in. Yes, its true marriage will be on rocks if the guy refuses to leave the mother apron strings. All this starts in a rather inoffensive manner. It begins with the upbringing admiration, extreme toadying, and once the boy enters his adolescent age, its quite natural for the mother to cling on for his son’s love.

One can enjoy the adulation of your mother, but once the other woman in form of wife steps in the life of the man, then things changes and discontent may creep in. According to Anil Dharkar, “there is nothing wrong in being mummy’s pet as long as it is a healthy bond where there is room for personal space. It is only when the bond becomes a binding tie that it begins to choke even the guys. When the boy grows up into an adult and brings home a girlfriend or a wife, the problem begins.”

Most of the men find the mother-wife situation to be tricky. Both of them are important and have important place in the man’s life. The mother should understand, she being elderly and wise, that its time to give the son liberty and let him give priority to his wife. It’s time for him to start his new family and let him concentrate with that. The love of a mother and a wife are completely different, though they are for the same person. Both should have their own space and should not invade others territory.

A woman enters their middle ages long before the men. Children and other people who were totally dependent on her now become independent. The husband is the prime of her life and the time spent between them could be less due to hectic scheduling and career. So in an anxious attempt to keep everyone clutched the lady of the house begins clinging to the sons. Emotional fulfillment and career makes them secure.

Most of the couple wants privacy in life. And unnecessary barge can result in stifling relationships in a husband and wife relationship. Misunderstandings get created, communication gaps persist and the marriage comes on rocks. A well grown up man who now has the responsibilities of running a family of being a husband and father, if still continues for the mother’s opinion, then it may become an issue a matter of strife and resentment. Let the man grow and lead an independent life. It’s not good to yoke anybody emotionally.