Are You The Jealous Kinds?

Jealousy, a simple and common human emotion, can be experienced by anyone, at any time. Jealousy, however, when not kept in check can take over all our other emotions and completely dominate us.

Jealousy initially seems a harmless human emotion but it’s anything but harmless. It is one emotion that can consume you in a manner that nothing else does. There is always cause for it to arise and unless you figure out what those causes are, you won’t be able to battle the feelings.

What makes you jealous? Is it a temporary phase or do you feel the pangs of it often? Pin point the exact reasons for your emotions. Why do you feel the way you do? If you are completely honest with yourself, the answers might shock you. Your own self-esteem might have a big role to play in how you feel about others. The exact roots of jealousy can tell you a lot about yourself and about your emotions towards others. There are two main reasons for anyone to feel jealous in a relationship. One is when you have doubts about yourself or have a skewed or low self image. The second is when you have had a bad past experience in a relationship. A bad experience in your past tends to color your perception and makes you fearful of a repeat situation. Feeling betrayed and suspicious is also common in this kind of a situation.

Try to keep your jealousy in check once you have realized the causes of it. The best way to do it is by communicating with your partner. If your cause of discomfort is another member of your sex who’s trying to get close to your partner, discuss how you feel about it. When you find out their side of the story, chances are you will realize that you had nothing to worry about.

You also want to work on your confidence. Feeling jealous of anyone means that we do not have enough confidence in ourselves. Once you feel confident and desirable enough, you will never feel jealous of anyone again. Remember though, that it will definitely take time to tone down jealousy.

Rome was not built in a day and the new you shall also not. Getting rid of jealousy permanently will require a lot of effort and patience on your part and a lot of affection and support from your partner. If you still feel a little bit jealous, learn to handle your emotions and do not display your feelings publicly.