Are You Tolerating Too Much?

There is not a single soul in this world who does not seek a caring and loving relationship. We all seek unions which foster emotional growth and development. A partnership is only fruitful when the people involved feel happy and satisfied. It is this feeling of happiness and contentment that brings forth commitment from the two people involved.

Unfortunately, the world is made up of all sorts of people and it is not always necessary that the partner that you sought out for yourself remains the same throughout or wants the same things in life as you. It is not always that we end up in relationships that are both passionate and nurturing. Unhealthy relationships are too common and you could end up in one if you keep tolerating things that you don’t feel are fair to you.

While compromise and adjustment is the foundation for all healthy relationships, finding yourself in a place where you are always adjusting can be a sign of your being in a relationship gone wrong. Tolerating everything that your partner says or does is not necessary.

When you have to rationalize everything that your partner says or does, ask yourself, ‘did I bargain for this?’ If your partner does things without any regards for you and expects you to accept their actions without any questions, know that it’s time to communicate your feelings.

There are times when we feel embarrassed because of our partner. However, if you find yourself apologizing for their behaviour and explaining their actions all the time, you might as well kiss the relationship goodbye. It is not your job to take responsibility for your partner’s actions. Make it clear to them. If your partner fails to make commitments, see this as a sign. Today they are failing others, tomorrow, they may fail you too.

While your actions may bring stability in your partner’s life for a brief period, give yourself some time to think whether you are ready to pick up after them and sort out their messes for the rest of your life. Also think about whether their disrespectful and shameful behavior brings you any happiness. Re-evaluate the reasons you got together with them and you will know whether you should continue to tolerate their actions and take the high road and politely say goodbye.