Being with a narcissistic partner

Narcissism stands for extreme self love that is often connected with a huge ego, a total disregard for the comforts or concerns of others and an intense and jealous possessiveness. Being in a relationship with a person having all these traits is a hard thing indeed. And trying to keep that relationship alive must be harder still.

Narcissists, by nature are self involved people. They are too much in love with their own selves to truly appreciate or love anyone else. They may feel a passing attraction or fancy, but it rarely deepens into love. If you are in a relationship with a person who constantly dominates you, tries to take over every little sphere of your life, tries to control your every action, every thought, every feeling then you may be certain that your partner is a narcissist.

I had a friend once whose partner would dictate her on what to wear, how to do her hair, even forbidding her to wear too expensive dresses or apply make up. This made her feel self-conscious, dowdy and her confidence level decreased. She became emotionally dominated by him. This is exactly what narcissists aim at.

They need constant boost for their ego, even if it has to be derived at the cost of the discomfort or pain of his loved ones. They must be the one at the fore front of things. They must always steal the show. They must always have the final say in every relationship.

Narcissists can be charming personalities. They exude a strength, a ruthlessness, a drive that is extremely attractive. But that is not enough. Being dazzled by a forceful personality is easy, but one should think and rethink before moving into a relationship. You must get to know your partner well before you consider taking a serious step.

The only thing to do in such cases is to assert yourself and discuss your relationship with your partner. Give him an ultimatum. If he does not mend his ways you must walk out with the little dignity you have left. This is no child’s play. This is your life, live it with respect, make it worthwhile.