Dating Crisis: Why Doesn’t He Call Back?

Welcoming a new man in your life can be very emotionally taxing for you. It is not everyday that you meet a guy you feel comfortable with. Someone who is fun to hang out with, gives you attention and makes you feel great about yourself. In al, he’s a keeper.

What happens then when you do meet that guy? You have a great time with him, perhaps even hook up and then he never calls you back.

For a lot of women, this is a rude shock. Silence from the other end can never be good, even if it is backed up with what can be at best called juvenile excuses. Being called up after what you presume to be a great date or good times is a reasonable expectation. Not receiving any communication however, is a sign that something is wrong at the other end.

Most women take this very seriously, obsessing over the fact that he has not called, wondering what went wrong and then doubting themselves instead of recognizing the silence as a signal. At some level, everyone knows that the reason there has been no contact from the other side is that the guy doesn’t think you’re right for them or is no longer interested in you. There could be many reasons for him not calling you.

A lot of men keep waiting for some sort of a signal from you to help them know if you actually do want to call them. If you think that you have had a good time, perhaps they think so too and are waiting for your call. Men can be as insecure as women and many of them might not want to seem pushy or coming on too strongly. It could also be that during your date, you passed some unintended signals that put the other person off. People are touchy about all kinds of things. You might have unintentionally made an innuendo or a casual allusion to something that he did not appreciate.

Another reason could be insecurity. Maybe he feels that you are too good for him and that you will eventually leave him. It might have something to do with his own self image and without really knowing how you feel about him, he gives up hope.

The only thing to do in this situation is to make the first move. Call them and casually mention that you were expecting their call. If they seem surprised at knowing that, rest assured that they are relieved that you called. They may also communicate that they do not think you are right for them. Take it in your stride. There are other men, perhaps more eligible, who would love to be with you.

However, if they don’t pick up your phone at all, perhaps it is time to look for love elsewhere. Whatever the reason for their not communicating be, just remember that there is no cause to fret over it. Break it up amicably if you have to and you will realize that you end up being the bigger person.