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Dating for Single Parents

By on May 28, 2009

Dating can be a tough experience for anyone, but if you are single parent, chances are that you are overwhelmed even by the mere idea of it. Sometimes, it even seems as if just taking out the time to date is going to be impossible.

Dating when you have a child who is solely your responsibility can be strenuous. Many a time conflicting thoughts enter your head and bother you. You wonder if your actions are in any way selfish and unjust to your kid. Finding the right person to date becomes all the more important when you have a child in your care.

Here’s how you can see yourself through this difficult and overwhelming situation. The first step is always to assess your situation and answer some important questions before you begin to plan things for yourself. The most difficult thing in your situation is to find the time to date. If you are working and also taking care of more than one child, your workload increases significantly. You will need to assess your situation and work some flexibility into your schedule. You could think of hiring a nanny for the time that you won’t be at home or could rely on a trusted friend or family member. Whatever you do, make sure that you have enough time to date and that your children are in safe hands while you’re at it.

Once the preliminaries are out of the way, think of what you want. Are you looking for a long term relationship? Are you serious and expecting a commitment? Be sure of what you want because your entire gamut of dating activities and processes will depend a lot on that. If you desire certain attributes in your potential partner, make a mental note of them. Separate the non negotiable from the negotiable.

Next comes the part where you decide how to go about looking for ‘the one’. The easiest and the commonest way is to try out the various dating websites that are offering their services. Read about which websites people prefer. All websites are not created equal, neither are all experiences. The good thing though is that there are so many options to choose from that you will not be left wanting.

Once you start meeting the other singles, it becomes like any other dating experience, however, since your situation is different from the other singles, you have to be careful about who you get close to and who you bring home with you. Screen your dates carefully. If you’ve met someone online, make sure you know enough about them before you actually meet them personally.

When you finally date, talk a lot and ask a lot of questions. Try to determine if you will be compatible with them or whether you have something in common with them. Though all this might sound very intimidating, always keep your children’s and your best interest in mind.