Fear of Failure In Children

We usually come across people who are nerds, unattractive, poor in studies, doing badly financially and are bullied by others, on television and movies. Watching all this gives a wrong message to a child. He feels that if he fails he will also be tortured like this and for that matter, starts avoiding such situations. Nobody wants to be known as a looser but the child starts taking failure as a threat to his/her social and personal standing.

To avoid and overcome from failure, children try different ways like- not participating in activities or finding excuses or blaming teachers for being partial and trying to gain sympathy of parents and there friends.

Failure is an inevitable part of life. The children should be taught to take failure with positive response and not with frustration and disappointment. Failure teaches a child to appreciate opportunities they are given.

Parents can teach there child to value failure and take it as a learning experience and not committing the mistake again. If the child is liberated from the fear of failure he/she tries to explore, take risks and is persistent in following his/her dreams.

Everybody is affected by failure and so is a child, but with little encouragement they can be motivated to try harder next time. A warm hug from parents is the biggest reassurance. As a parent you need to interact with there coach and guide and give your feedback on certain issues.

You need to make a balance. An extreme of both- being harsh and being too soft on the failure of child is bad. Scolding or criticizing the child on his failure or pampering them on there failure by buying expensive gifts so that they don’t feel low is not only wrong but will harm his/her personality.

Sometimes it takes a lot of mistakes in getting something right. So don’t let your child take failure as a death sentence. But pampering them will give them a wrong message and they will not put the effort required.