Four Slippery Steps To An Affair

Almost everyday we come across people of the opposite sex who are attractive. That’s not the problem. The problem lies in our selfish choices after the attraction. There are several steps that lead us to infidelity. Here are the four dangerous ones:

A wandering mind:
If you let some thoughts go unchecked you may have to pay a big price later. This is the stage when you start thinking about somebody else. When you like to sit next to them or wonder if they like you. Moreover, you try to manipulate your schedule to create opportunities for contact with them. Your thoughts go “what if…”, and you think about the possibilities. If you allow this to continue, your emotions will grow and you’ll think about the other person in a romantic way. It’s better to be strict with yourself and immediately divert your mind whenever you think about someone who could lead you to committing adultery. Avoid that person as much as possible.

A weak heart:
This is the stage when you get emotional about that person and start to build a bond by creating excuses to spend time together. You may try to do things to please him or her. For instance, If he mentions that he likes a particular color, you may be tempted to wear that color or if she talks about a favorite flower, you may want to bring her one. Remember, if you have an intimate contact, with someone other than your spouse, it is a breach of your marriage vows.

Flirtations:
This step includes verbal flirtations and taking the relationship to another level. You begin by making or responding to very personal compliments such as, “You are the perfect person for me” or “When I’m with you, I feel so happy.” This only leads to the formation of a sexual intimacy between you and the person. You start exchanging very sensual mails, messages and phone calls.

Physical closeness:
This is when you break all limits. Kissing, touching and finally sex. Once you have had sex you can’t go back. You have broken the promise you made to your spouse and have selfishly put everything at stake, your marriage, your children everything. If you’ve already crossed the line, the only way to mend things is to stop all contact with the other person, confess everything to your spouse and ask for their forgiveness. Give them time and prove them that you won’t repeat this mistake again. They might forgive you.