How close is your “close friend”?

Almost all of us have a huge group and great bunch of friends when we are throwing a party or arranging a get together. But when it comes to personal matters we have just one or two close pals with whom we can share the secret, the times when we are shattered and upset. You should know that close friend is a friend that stands with you at your desperate hours of need. They should lead their supportive hands when you need them the most, without turning their back on you.

One doest have to be a philosopher or agony aunt for this purpose. The main idea is to sympathize with your friend. When we are young in our teens then we find that our friends are the best support system. We are always looking forward for each other company; need them very much at times of necessity, it could be because we think they are the best people who can understand us in a much better way then our own parents or siblings.

Even most of us will confide that though we are close to our parents in our teenage years, we would love to open up with our friends during these tender years. It’s not because that he/she will give a quick solution to our problem but because he/she understands us in a much better manner. Thus will make us feel stronger at time of need.

It has been seen that teenagers need the support of their friends when they their have clash with their parents, have some personal familial problems or other problems of school or studies. In most of the cases it has been found that though friends are not the best solution or best people on whom one turns for but they may be the best people with whom one can relate. The main reason that most of the teenagers have the common problems, the friends are also not judgmental. It’s because one would definitely not liked to be judged when one is going though the bad phase in life.

If one lands in such crisis or position then be alert in how you react to your friend. Never ever criticize your friend about anything he/she cannot do. What is done is over, it better to sit calm down and think rationally over the problem and how to rectify the problem. Stay away from injecting negative thoughts in to your friends mind. Do not talk about negative consequences to him/her. They could be true at times but talking about them bluntly will make no good in fact you will be discouraging your friend to face the situation boldly.

Do not take his problem lightly; it would make him/her think that you are not serious about his/her crisis. Even if you are unable to relate or understand his conditions try to distract your friend’s attention from the subject. It could be also in the form of going together out or taking a brisk walk. See that both of you have fun time together. And finally if you feel that your friend’s problem is deep rooted and beyond your capacity to handle then suggest him/her to open up to his/her parent. They would be the best person to pull him/her out of his situation.