How To Break Up With Someone?

Starting a relationship is difficult; ending it is even more difficult. Whatever the reason of breaking up is, the act itself is associated with a lot of pain and a lot of heartache. What makes breaking up even more painful is the way it is often mishandled. The anger that often is a result of a relationship going poorly gets reflected on the way you deal with the person that you are breaking up with. No matter what the reason of breaking up be, the relationship should always be ended amicably and kindly.

If you have a relationship with someone, it is quite obvious that there might have been strong feelings too – on the part of either of you. When you end the relationship, you are either breaking someone’s heart or getting your own heart broken. If you’ve arrived at the decision, you obviously have put a lot of thought into it. Give your partner the respect that they deserve and break the news most honestly and gently. One day, you might also be on the receiving end of a break-up. Treat your partner the way you would want to be treated in this delicate situation.

When you feel that your relationship is not going anywhere, you should seek out your partner and tell them frankly that it’s not working out for you. Delaying the process of breaking up will not be good for anyone – neither you nor anyone else. When you extend the situation, it only makes matters worse.

Handle the situation tactfully. Give them an honest reason for your desire to break up. Try to do it in a place where you and your partner have some personal space. It is quite possible that one or both of you might end up crying. Having your own personal space simply means that avoid creating a big scene in front of total strangers.

Don’t break the news suddenly. Prepare them for it slowly and gently. Do not go into an elaborate build up. It might be as difficult for you to break this news to them as it would be for them to accept it, but someone has to be mature about it and do it in the right manner. Since you are the person initiating it, you should be the one to take the most care.

Be clear in your mind. Once you finish the relationship, end it for good. Don’t think of getting back together with them if you change your mind.

Even if you initiate the break-up, it is quite possible for you to feel terribly sad and guilty. Do not nurse any guilt in your own mind. If you were not happy with your partner, there are good chances that your partner was not happy either. Dragging the weight of a dead relationship doesn’t do credit to either one of you, so it is better that your partner gets hurt now rather than prolong it and hurt them more later.