How to Control Anger?

Is the ‘good girl’ training making us keep our mouth shut and not show our anger? We swallow our frustrations to keep peace. Although it is not easy to confront the source of anger, but you will be amazed how clear-headed and energized you will feel once you have unleashed your fury. Rather than expressing anger in a destructive way or swallowing your anger to keep piece use the power of anger to get what you want. Here are some tips to help you-

Don’t repress your anger by engaging in activities that numb your body. Instead of finding solace by turning to alcohol, trying to sedate yourself by watching television or healing yourself by comfort eating, confront the person who is trying to insult you. Whether it is your boss, your co-worker or your spouse.

Instead of avoiding confrontation face the situation. Initially to avoid a negative situation you try to take extra load of work. But gradually you feel you are being abused, which makes you angry and frustrated and that can be done only if you are calm and collected. Anger makes us loose our thinking ability. Getting angry or shouting at others or giving them a silent treatment will not get you the desired result. It will only worsen the situation. You need to find a solution for what is annoying you. Instead of grumbling, talk directly. There is no point in beating about the bush or engaging in a weekly gripe with your friend.

You don’t have to blame yourself if anything goes wrong; for example, feeling guilty if the child is not performing well or if you are not able to keep a commitment. Whether you blame others or yourself, this brings feeling of frustration and anger which is not a good emotion. It only makes your relationship bitter and affects your health.