How to deal with your adolescent kids?

Parenting may sound like an intimidating task, courtesy the new age kids. The Gen Y is very demanding. They are not only attention grabbers but affluent lifestyle, luxuries and other materialistic pleasures make them yearn for more and more.

The value for money has gone down and down, in recent past. It is quiet natural for the parents, to be worried and stressed out about their kids. The world has flattened and has increased the woes of the parents. Sitcoms and other serials are so popular among the kids that they love to be dressed in the similar fashion and lead life in the similar way. Teens as early as 15-16 believe in clubbing and hanging out at late hours.

Blame it on the laws or lax club rules, the air is more liberal and so are the kids and their parents. These pubs and clubs have become a popular hangout spot for the Gen Y. Their vacationing at these stopovers is not only restricted to chill out or groove to the music but for the boozes too. The rate at which these kids gulp down the shots will make even a pro doubt for a while.

Parents find it difficult to deal such matters especially with adolescent kids. Rude retorts and abrupt responses are natural in most of the cases. The kids are spoilt with no value for money and no respect for the elders. Under these conditions the role of the parent becomes tricky and challenging.
The parents have to be firm while addressing these issues. Make clear that all the unreasonable demands will not be entertained. Your children need guidance. They may sometimes act rebellious, but it is important to make them understand that, though you can be friends with them, but the respect for authority has to be maintained.

The parents should instill good family values in their kids. Be friendly with your kid’s friends. But always keep a watch in which company they move. Lack of communication is another reason that increases problems. Communication should be kept alive with your children. Over restriction or extreme liberty comes with a price. Let there be a perfect balance between the two.
The parents also have to move with the time. Instead of turning down your kids request explain things. Reasoning is very important at this time. Avoid bluntly refusing.

Some therapists believe that the parents should behave like friends and their close confidant. The communication should always be open. The main mantra is to build a rapport that your child should always count on you instead of heading in the wrong direction. Make him or her believe that you are the person with whom they can discuss and talk about their dilemma in person.