How To Fight Fair?

After the honeymoon period is over, the fighting period begins. However, do not panic or feel that something is terribly wrong in the relationship. An argument is healthy since it can help get issues off your chest. But you need to fight fair, there should be logic and not mud slinging.

Here are some tips:

Never start an argument or discussion when you are angry, because when you are at boiling point you will be hurtful and say rude things to your partner. Let yourself calm down. Discuss the issues only with a peaceful mind.

Don’t start any argument in an accusing manner. Incase of using ‘you’ try using ’I’ for example, instead of saying ‘you have not done this’ say ‘I am hurt when this happens’. You want your partner to see your point of view and not understand your feelings and not argue for just the sake of it. Instead of focusing on insulting or hurting each other try to focus on the real issue.

Remember, behave in the way you want to be treated. If you want to be heard, listen to your partner and don’t interrupt him while he is speaking. Trying to see his point of view. If you don’t want to be shouted at then don’t shout. Every problem has a solution, but only if you try to find out and this can be done only by talking to each other like mature adults. Don’t assume what your partner is thinking or how he is going to react. Allow the other person to share there views.

Lastly, don’t try to insult the other person by calling him/her names because it becomes difficult to forget harsh words even when the argument has ended. However, don’t keep grudges either, because keeping grudge can be very stressful both mentally and physically and can cause a great deal of health problems.