How To Give Space To Your Boyfriend

Romantic relationships are very complex. For a relationship to run smoothly it is important that there is a right mix of all the necessary elements in the relationship.

Both men and women in a relationship need the right amount of love, care, concern, affection, respect, support and space so that they can remain happy and content and their relationship becomes successful. We often emphasize so much on all the other requirements of a relationship that we completely ignore one particular and very important factor – Space.

It has been found that it is mostly women who are more prone to clinging to their partners and ignoring the importance of space in the relationship. Though, women mostly cling to their partners out of the concern and affection that they harbor for their men and it is of course meant to be at the best interest of their partners.

Men however may not find anything good in this clinginess of their partners and in the whole process may feel disgusted and suffocated. This can lead to innumerable problems and even the untimely end of your lovely relationship with him. Therefore, it is absolutely necessary that you provide sufficient space to your boyfriend or husband. If you want to know how exactly you can give space to your boyfriend, then read on.

Understanding and Accepting the Need for Space

If you want to give space to your boyfriend then the very first thing that you must do is understand and accept the importance, necessity and benefit of space. You must also understand that needing and providing space is pretty normal in a relationship. The right amount of space can do wonders to a relationship. It will also foster better understanding and stronger bonding between you and your boyfriend.

If your boyfriend speaks to you about letting him some breathing space then do not immediately take it as a sign of the end of love and the relationship. Ask him why he needs that space and for what time period. Also try to understand what exactly he means by “space”. But make it a point that while you discuss the matter with him you do not get on his nerves or get into a bitter fight with him.

Stop Trying To Control His Life

Never try to control the life of your boyfriend. Do not try to dictate to him what he is supposed to do and what not, what is good for him and what’s bad, what is right for him and what is wrong. You are his girlfriend, remain so. Trying to be his guardian is not something any boyfriend would really appreciate.

Limit Your Concern For Him

Concern is a part of affection and it is quite natural that you are worried and concerned about the well being and happiness of your boyfriend. So, calling him up a couple of times or asking him about things is normal. But do not overdo that. If you keep calling and texting him all day or bombarding questions on him always, then it will only irritate him.

He may find no concern of yours in that but may feel that you are trying to keep track of him and his doings. He may also get a feeling that you ask him questions or keep enquiring about things because you don’t trust him. All these will surely do much harm to your relationship with him. Always remember that everything is good when it is done in moderation and anything when done in excess turns poisonous.

Do Not Make Him Feel You Are Needy or Clingy

Men hate women being clingy and acting needy. So, by no means give him the feel that you are clingy or needy. For that you need to keep a tab on your negative thoughts which may compel you to keep calling him or keep continuous contact with him. Keep faith in your relationship, trust in your boyfriend and confidence in yourself.

Do not allow thoughts like “what if he leaves me”, “what if he gets a better and more beautiful girlfriend than me”, “what if he gets back to his ex” enter or reside in your mind. One thing you must remember is that under no condition should you plead to him or beg him for being with you or spending more time with you.

How To Be With Him and What Not To Do

Men feel stressed if their girlfriends are full of demands or are too much pressurizing. Men are not very good at or rather interested in handling such demands and pressures. So, do not be demanding to your boyfriend. Men like their girlfriends to be supportive, understanding and positive by nature. Along with all these, it is important that you do not set any conditions for him. Setting conditions is often like restricting choices for him and controlling him.

Learn To Respect His Choices And Decisions

If your boyfriend chooses to spend time alone, with his friends or simply apart from you, then respect his choice and decision. For that matter, you should respect and accept whatever he chooses and decides for himself and his life. Criticizing him or his decisions would only make you seem more demanding and controlling.

Keep Yourself Occupied

When your mind is free and not occupied it will keep you reminding of your boyfriend, will give birth to those negative thoughts about your relationship and will create an impulse or strong urge to call or text your boyfriend continuously. It is very difficult to control negative thoughts and the temptation of calling or messaging your boyfriend.

And if you give in then you surely will invade the space that your boyfriend needs and deserves from you. Therefore, it is important that you keep yourself occupied and busy. Invest time in doing things that you like and enjoy, for self-development, etc.

Maintain Your Own Identity and Life

If your life circles around him and your identity is left as being his girlfriend only, then it is quite obvious that you will stick or try to stick to him always. So do not lose your own identity. Do not make yourself feel and believe that he is the one and only aspect of your life and there is nothing else in your life which is worth living for. If you indulge in such thoughts then it will only make you feel miserable and you may even get into self pity. These things will only make you clingier and him more suffocated.