How To Make A Rebound Work?

A “rebound” is a period of time following a particularly painful break-up. It is when you plunge into another relationship without healing yourself from your previous one and making peace with what has happened. 

It’s a fact that beginning a new liaison while you are still in love with your ex or are still brooding about the tragic ending radically reduces the chance that you will find true love in the current relationship. Another reason why a rebound has a reputation of not working is because you may choose the wrong type of person to date. Here are some tips that can help you make a rebound LAST.

Honesty is the best policy:
Make sure you are honest to both yourself and your current partner. You have to be clear about what exactly you are looking for in a relationship. Are you looking for a one night stand, a no-strings-attached fun to help you forget your ex or do you need someone to be a shoulder you can cry on and feel secure with. Whatever you require, being honest about it with yourself gives you the ability to make healthy rebound choices rather than ones that will injure an already damaged ego.

Also, from an ethical point of view its very important for you to be clear about your intentions to the person you are planning to date. You should tell the person about your recent history and that you might not be ready for a very serious committed relationship. Once you’ve revealed what it is you want then you can go for it. The bottom line is, you are not cheating anyone from the truth. If the other person is willing to go forward, then you will have nothing to feel guilty about if things don’t work out later.

Give yourself some time to moan:
Every breakup requires a certain time to moan and feel sad. This time may vary from person to person but it is required. Make very sure you’ve given yourself time to LEARN from the mistakes you made last time and also what you really want in your future relationships. Make sure you don’t end up making the same mistakes and going through the same torture again. Remember “Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me”. Never repeat your mistakes.

Don’t start dating your ex’s look alike:
I mean this literally and figuratively. Rebounding with someone who carries the same negative traits as your ex or looks the same as he or she is a complete NO NO. Don’t repeat your mistakes. Even if it’s just a short term relationship, date someone with a fresh personality. Something you have not experienced before. This will not only help you explore but will actually make you forget your ex FOR GOOD.