How to Overcome Fear of Rejection
Fear of rejection can make a person abdicate his power of thinking to others. This fear is based on the ideology that someone else has the ability to decide how you feel about you. Most of the people fear rejection because it lowers their self esteem. But there is really no reason to loose your confidence just because something or someone did not go your way. The first thing towards the fight against the fear of rejection is to “accept yourself the way you are”. Here is what should follow:
Examine your thoughts:
We tend to assume that all our thoughts are realistic and valid, especially our fearful automatic thoughts, but that’s often not the case. Automatic, fearful thoughts are behaviors that may have been acquired during tough childhood experiences. You may also have learned to be fearful by observing people who were themselves extremely fearful. Try examining your thoughts realistically, it will help you deal with the fear.
Have a strong opinion of yourself:
Do not base your self image on things told to you by others. External opinion should not influence your own opinion of yourself. Establish your self image on interpersonal qualities. In order to sustain feelings of adequacy you should not be constantly concerned with the reactions of others to them. Trust yourself!
Treat rejection as positive criticism:
Not all rejection is bad. If you feel you have been rejected don’t take it in a negative way. Remember, it will help you perform better and also make you be more cautious the next time around. If you take rejection as a positive criticism, it will not come back to haunt you. If you handle rejection maturely,it will get easier for you to approach a situation where you may be rejected.
Develop a greater fear of regret:
Believe it or not but– You wouldn’t regret the times when you made a complete fool of yourself, but rather the times that you didn’t try something out of fear. Remember, do not take rejection so seriously that it starts effecting every decisions that you make in life! Just listen to your heart and do what you really want to do, rather than trying to confirm with the social norms all the time.
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