Is he losing interest in you?

You are in a relationship for over 1 year. It was “sugar and spice and everything nice” at the beginning, but now you can feel his interest in you waning. You do not sleep together as often as you used to. Even when he drops in for a night, he is either working on his laptop or getting so drunk that he is not fit for any serious action later on. Or it is only when he is drunk and on a high that he wants to have sex with you. Well girl, you are in a mess because your gut feeling was right. He is losing interest in you.

Well don’t break down. There may be a way out of this problem yet. You need to share your fears with him. You need to ask of him an explanation of his behaviour. And most importantly, you need to do it tactfully, without flying into a rage.

Don’t nag him or cry. Be calm. Make sure you have his full attention when you are having the conversation. You cannot make your point if he is divided between his laptop and files and you.

Decide what you are going to say to him. Avoid unnecessary accusations. Explicitly state the problems you are facing and then ask for an explanation of his behaviour.You must know his side of the story as well. All this might just turn out to be a case of miscommunication and misunderstanding.

Give him time to consider your point. If he does not immediately offer you an explanation or apology, don’t nag him. Give him space. Get some space for yourself as well.

Review your relationship. See if you think this is worth it or truly want this to work out. Discuss with your partner.

If he does not respond favorably or tries to mend his behavior, well, then you have brains enough to see where it is heading. You’ve tried your best. But you know that it takes two to make a relationship, and so does he. If he is not doing his share then it is best to take a clean break. It’s not worth it.