Joint Family Problems: Answers to Common Cases

In a joint family, there are a number of problems that different family members face. These problems go unheard and often end up ruining the relationships. We have brought to you few such cases of family problems and their solutions. Hope you will find these relating to your problem. Read on to know more.

Problem 1: I stay in a joint family. There are 22 members at my in-laws. My family comprise of my husband and my son. I am a working woman and have to report to the office at 9 am in the morning. I come back by 6 pm. My in-laws have a problem with this. None of my sister-in-laws are working and they so not want me to work as well. They want me to help them at the household work. I don’t wish to leave my job. I am in a fix. Please help.

Answer: If you wish to continue with your job, then do not think over what others say. But since, you live in a joint family; you must respect everyone’s view. Talk it out with the elders in the family and explain to them that you want to be self-reliant. Tell them, that you will do your bit at home as well. Talk to your husband. If he supports you, you need no other help!

Problem 2: My in-laws family is of 15 people. All of them have different mentality. They expect me to be a different person to each one of them. I cannot adjust with this. I have having difficulty with my husband because of this. He doesn’t understand and thinks that I cannot adapt. Please help.

Answer: You need to talk to the elders of your in-laws family. Be good to everyone. Or be the same to everyone, so to say. Try and explain them, that you cannot be pretentious. You are what you are. Being a different person to everyone will only worsen matter and make your character mysterious. Tell them, that you are being yourself. They are sure to understand.

Hope you could relate to these problems and the answers were of help.