Making your Relationship Your Priority

Becoming ‘we’ from ‘I’ comes naturally to people when they just begin a relationship. Sharing personal space with each other can automatically give rise to the ‘we’ feeling. It is not often though that couples with a couple of years of the relationship behind them are as excited about the ‘we feeling’ as their counterparts who are in a new relationship.

With the passage of time, we tend to take our partner for granted. Other, more mundane things require immediate attention and often inadvertently love takes the backseat. Why is it that what came naturally to us sometime ago becomes so difficult?

A lot of couples these days are not able reprioritize their relationship. The fact that you are now responsible for someone else’s well being too often sub consciously weighs on us and we get so involved in getting material things together that we fail to see the reason why we got together in the first place – love.

There is also the Herculean task of reprioritizing your relationship with your kin. Your relationship with your parents, siblings and close family changes when you make a commitment to another person. Reorganizing roles and rearranging the balance of power can sometimes take a lot of time and we forget why we began the reorganizing.

It’s not always easy to establish healthy boundaries around the two of you. In-laws, finances, changed living circumstances and many times relocation, all takes a toll on our emotional well being. On top of that the new social situation can leave couples reeling to get balance back in their old life.

When you want to get that old loving feeling back again into your life, creating some simple rituals for just the two of you can really work wonders. Do something together everyday as a rule to have interruption free communication. Appreciate each other more. Share useful insights from your daily activities. If possible start an activity together. Walk the dog together or go to the gym together, you can try anything that you want.

Make a conscious list of all your daily challenges and try to sort them out together as a couple. The more you will discuss the minute details of your life, the more you will come closer to understanding and appreciating each other better.