Making Your Step Daughter Love You

There are no ready made instruction manuals where a family relationship creation is concerned. A good relationship need to be not only carefully yet spontaneously created but also regularly and daily looked after, cultured and cared for to enable it to sustain and grow. Many people will give many suggestions on how to go about it but ultimately, spontaneous love is the main anchor for such healthy family relationships.

The same pertains to how one should treat our own children, whether she is a natural or a step child. In fact, it is all the more difficult to be an acceptable foster parent than a natural one. Obviously the step daughter can be expected to keep a feeling in her mind that her actual father might have loved her more than the step father.

After all, you did not marry her but her mother and she has automatically been dumped into the house as a result of that alliance. The thought of her biological father will always be there to compare with you and the feeling that whatever you are doing for her, he might have done better. Her surroundings may also aggravate the matter since people be talking negatively.

There is no single solution to this situation. It is up to the parent to ensure that you nourish the child with all the love and affection she deserves under the circumstances while it is also up to the step child to appreciate that you have accepted her as a foster child and is lavishing her with all the affection you would have imparted to your own child.

An emotional link is needed and this has to come instinctively for it to sustain and be reciprocated.

The main thing for a step daughter to love you is for her to first like you and consider you trustworthy, acceptable and looking up to. It is ultimately a matter of body language – love will spontaneously flow if your two body languages gel. Your nature, respect for her, understanding and caring for her emotions, all will ultimately bring out her love for you provided there is a positive synergy.