Simple Girly Gestures that Scare or Score

Whoever said that subtle hints and gestures are lost on men was wrong. If you are feeling a little lovey-dovey, your man will certainly notice – especially if they are crazy about you. However, the same gestures, when made at the wrong time, send them running for cover. It is difficult to get inside a man’s head and understand what really happens.

When you first start dating, the guy usually takes it very casually. He is not looking for cards, gifts or meeting your friends and family. He is probably only thinking about having a good time and may be caught unawares when you start showering all the attention on him.

It is not unusual for women to want to show their love for their man in many ways, however, what are simple gestures of love to you, may be perceived as wrong signals by men. He might see simple gifts as you trying to mark him off as your territory. This will definitely send him scampering to familiar grounds – his friends, who will probably tell him that you are bad news!

If you really want to get him a gift, get something that’s not permanent or that can be quickly consumed. His favorite sandwich or a cheesecake from an exotic bakery, a ticket to the local concert or basketball match – something that says that you want him to have a good time, can be a great gift at the beginning stage of your relationship.

Once you do become exclusive, you can give him gifts based on inside jokes. If you have some dirty inside joke, give him something that would remind him of that joke, and ultimately leave him thinking about you. He would love to have something like that, plus he would be happy to know that he’s seeing someone who has a great sense of humor.

Stay away from getting too friendly with his friends or family and trying to find out from them, intimate stuff about his past. That territory should definitely remain uncharted, unless he himself invites you into it. Don’t try to force your way into his friends circle, trying to be a part of inside stuff that you shouldn’t be poking your nose into. Every man has some guy stuff, just like you have your girl stuff. You would do good by not straying into that.

Men see their living spaces as sacred territories. Do not try to enforce your presence by rearranging things. If he throws the towel on the floor, it’s probably because he likes to leave it there. You might think that you’re doing him a favor by cleaning up after him, he might not think the same. Gradually bringing all your girly things into his living space can really freak him out. If you have not talked about moving in, or getting serious in your relationship, leave your stuff at your home, not his.