When You Run Into Your Ex

When you have just split up, the last person you want to run into is your ex. Even though it is widely accepted that world is a small place, technology today makes it even smaller. So when you accidentally run into your ex while visiting a friend, or stumble upon his profile on facebook, all the feelings that you had controlled with so much difficulty just come gushing back. Emotions run high and often you find yourself wishing you were somewhere else.

The correct thing to do would be to keep your emotions to yourself and pretend that nothing happened. However, it is not fair to expect rational behavior when the mind is in turmoil and emotions are in complete disarray.

For any relationship gone sour, the time right before and after the split is the lowest point in its entire span. Still, as mature adults, try and deal with the situation with a little more poignancy. You can say hello, to avoid awkwardness but try not to ask any personal questions like how their life is going or whether they are seeing someone. Those things should better be left alone.

As time passes on and the healing process begins, you might find it easier to talk to them. However, for you to avoid further awkwardness on bumping into them again, stop having any resentful thoughts about them. Try as much as you can to be civil to them but don’t try to move into a relationship with them. Just as you don’t ask them about their private life, refrain from giving out information about yours.

The possibility that your relationship with your ex might never be warm again is always there, however, there are a lot of couples in this world who remain friendly with their exes even after many years of breaking up. It’s up to you whether you would rather make things comfortable with each other or spend the rest of your life avoiding them.