Why Does My Husband Avoid Sex?

You entered into a marriage relationship and after a few months you begin to realize that your husband is not particularly interested in sex. It is quite surprising at the same time you may begin to feel disappointed or cheated and may get totally frustrated with your marriage. Rather than having extreme feelings and emotions it is important for you to understand some of the reasons why men may avoid having sex.

Firstly if you are constantly complaining, nagging or commenting about him or if he perceives you are, that may turn him off. As a husband he would like to be loved and respected not taken for granted and spoken ill of. Be careful about what you speak about your husband both to him and others and as far as possible avoid discussing family matters with outsiders, it does more harm than good. It is also possible that your husband is going through some kind of depression that has affected his life and he is not able to relate to himself. This has resulted in a reduced sex drive and he is embarrassed that it is affecting his marriage though he is not able to do much about it.

Another possible reason could be stress probably in the workplace or elsewhere. He may not be very successful and may feel a failure and the fear of being branded as a failure in this area may make him avoid sex. It is also possible that he has the fear of not being able to satisfy you or the fear of having more children. Another important reason that men may avoid sex is having an affair or even the thought of another woman.

This is damaging and would be detrimental to your marriage. It is important not to base your suspicions on imagination but have ample proof before you actually confront him with the issue. In all cases it is good to have a open talk, respect, acknowledge his strengths, appreciate him, make him feel good about himself and be understanding and supportive. Once you have spoken to him try to rebuild your marriage as physical intimacy is surely the main key to a successful marriage.